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Monday, June 23, 2008

Whoa-ooh here it comes: The Manival #9
Wouldn't you just know it, it's the shortest night of the year and I'm hosting Manival #9. What does the summer solstice have to do with anything? Well, since I'm the Night Writer, that means this is the shortest window of opportunity for me all year — and there were 36 entries into this week's carnival to be read, reviewed, accepted or rejected!

I've tried to make it easier for readers to sort through these by organizing the posts into categories and providing a brief description of each article (or maybe just to prove that I read them all). There are 22 linked here; the ones that were excluded were also interesting and well-written but were eliminated for one of two reasons. 1) Multiple submissions from the same blogger (I didn't know until I hosted that the Manival limits you to one post per person per week). 2) The topic was interesting, but not "manly" enough; that is, the topic was general enough to be relevant for a large audience, but not specifically geared toward men. That sounds arbitrary (because it is), but hey — my week, my call.

EDITOR'S CHOICE
I was having a tough time picking a favorite from so many worthy entries but, wouldn't you know, the last entry under the wire blew me away. Man Up: Power by Corey at The Simple Marriage Project. Read it first, or read it last, and see if you don't agree.

PARENTING
On the parenting front, David B. Bohl examines The Difference Between a Dad and a Father on his Slow Down Fast blog.

Tony Chen gets "in the zone" with Tiger Woods and I are Pretty Similar over at SavvyDaddy.

Charlie Kondek goes from Thomas the Tank Engine to "Infinity and Beyond" in examining how his son is learning to distinguish good and evil in Daddy, What Does Evil Mean? at Virile Lit.

Totally Consumed is totally touching in Father to Son: an open letter on leadership.

Dad of Divas offers the thoughtful post Time In a Bottle, reminding us that no one has yet figured out how to get that time to stay in the bottle.

Babbo examines the dark twists on the path to enlightenment in his post Was Buddha a Schmuck? over at Daddy Brain.

Oh boy, just in time for the Solstice, Derek offers 10 Things To Do With Your Kids This Summer from the Man Page. (The article link works fine, just don't try to go directly to his blog's home page because the stupid Bill Engvall audio file will crash your browser - or at least it did to mine, repeatedly. But I'm not bitter. Update: Derek fixed the site, click away).

Inspired by these, I'll link to one of my older posts about a painful, but valuable, lesson my daughters and I learned in Duty is Ours. Results are God's.

GUY STUFF & MANLINESS
Looking to beat a manly retreat from the hustle and bustle of daily life? James Hills has a series of posts on "Man Trips" or "mancations", including a review and interview regarding a Stogies and Sticks golf package at the Arizona Biltmore, on his Man Tripping blog.

Dr. Awesome keeps the Male Bag, I mean, Mail Bag, open with another advice column, this time on the topic of what qualify as manly Careers. (Advance warning, male hairdressers may want to start calling themselves "hair wranglers".) You can check it out on To Every Man a Manswer.

I think you can expect Russ to fully accept any bouquets or brickbats that might come his way from his Accepting Responsibility post over on Escaping Enlightenment.

Doug Rutter asks a question: do you want to "have" kids or "raise" kids in his post Koke has Man Shoes on his self-named blog.

Kevin submitted a couple of good selections for this week's Manival, but I chose his tribute to Tim Russert, not because of it's timeliness but because the inspiration Kevin received is timeless. (While you're on the Return to Manliness blog you might want to look around for his "Top 10 First Date Conversations.")

With a blog named Stormbringer's Thunder, and his own straight-forward manly name, you can be sure Bob has little time for sissies in his post What About the Guys? (Bob seems like the kind of guy who never got in touch with his feminine side, probably because of a restraining order it took out on him).

Dustin at dBlogit gave me two posts to choose from and I selected Why Men Hate Chick Flicks And How to Avoid Watching Them. Though some of his criticisms of chick-flick cliches could also apply to more manly buddy-type action flicks, the clincher is he also offers great escapes for when a chick-flick appears inevitable.

There's a reason the classic TV show Home Improvement featured tools prominently: tools are manly. Andrew from Primer magazine submits a list of the 10 Tools Every Man Should Have, so make sure you've got what it takes.

MARRIAGE AND RELATIONSHIPS
The Manival has a fine tradition of including "How To" posts. This week Cory Huff has some great advice on "how to shoot yourself in the foot" with The Ultimate Guide To Winning An Argument With Your Spouse at A Good Husband.

A wise man I know often says, "You can be happy, or you can be right." Hayden Tompkins carves a trail for you over similar ground in How to De-Escalate Your Marriage at Persistent Illusion.

I beg your pardon; may I suggest you read Use Your Manners by A Husband on the I Am Husband blog? Thank you.

OTHERS
Andrew Scotchmer has to literally walk the talk (or talk the walk) as he uncovers the benefits of becoming bilingual in Do You, Parlez-Vous? at Complete Kaizen. (And no, GSL - Grunting as a Second Language - doesn't count).

GP offers a great photo and a reflection that dreams — and grace — do come true in a post entitled Zen of the West.


If you'd like to be part of Manival #10 submit your blog article using the Manival submission form.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Something Manly This Way Comes
I've been asked to play host to Manival #9 next week. Use the link here if you have a post from your blog that you'd like to share that has insight, humor or edification (or all three!) on the ways of men. You need to send these to me by Monday, as the Manival rides on Tuesday!

I've found a lot of new and interesting blogs by participating in this carnival. It's been surprising and encouraging to see how many men are using their talents and keyboards to inform, entertain and encourage other men and women. Apparently I'm not the only one that has noticed. The Pioneer Press ran an article this week about "Daddy Bloggers" as a contrast to "Mommy Bloggers". It didn't mention any of the blogs I've been reading lately, though, so I thought I'd throw some links out here. Some of these have been added to my blogroll and the rest will be soon.

The Art of Manliness
Dad Gone Mad
Gunfighter: A Modern Warrior's Life
A Good Husband
The Man Page
The Simple Marriage Project
DaddyBrain
To Every Man a Manswer
I Am Husband
Stormbringer's Thunder
Manmail

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

A real "man's lady"

You may have heard a guy being described as a real "man's man", but a regular and insightful contributor — wise in the ways of manliness — to the weekly Manivals is actually a woman. Hayden Tompkins at Persistent Illusion lays things out in a direct and refreshing manner. As to why she spends so much time on this particular topic, well, I think I'll let her explain it:
People wonder why, as a woman, I am so dedicated to topics of ‘manliness’ and being a man.

Chances are if you aren’t a man, then your life partner is a man. Whether you want to be a better man - a more inspired husband, an involved father, a successful businessman - or be with a better man, you are probably aware that there is a lack in this country of material on what it means to be a man.

As being a 50’s era breadwinner and head of household is no longer what it means to be a man, so too is retreating from responsibilities and letting the woman of your life handle everything. Being a man today means strength coupled with flexibility; self-knowledge, without ‘forcing’ this self on others or sacrificing it for the sake of your partnership; and fully experiencing life with an open heart, authentically, without cutting your beloved out.

Support of the ‘menaissance’ is critical in creating the breathing room needed for men to take chances and transform their lives and their relationships.

And with better men come better women and with better women come better men and with better men come better women and with better women…

Amen.

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Manival #7 is up

The 7th Manival is up and running this week at The Simple Marriage Project. There are four categories this week, and there are several very interesting sounding posts under each. The categories are Fatherhood/Parenting (which includes my own "Dad to the Bone" post), Marriage/Relationship, Recreation, and How-to Guides for Men.

I haven't followed any of the links yet, but how can you resist titles such as "You Don't Mess Around with Dad", "The 'I Don't Want To' Trap", "Things You Don't Scrimp On" and "7 Vital Characteristics of a Man"?

These past seven weeks have been very encouraging and enlightening for me as I've seen the depth and wisdom of men are pouring into the blogosphere. Just when you think the culture, and perhaps even yourself, have become totally self-indulgent and gratuitous you discover that there is a well-spring of wisdom, humor and a desire to serve if only you know where to look. I suggest you go take a look at the Manival series.

The previous Manivals can be found at the following links:

#1 @ The Art of Manliness
#2 @ A Good Husband
#3 @ Schaefer’s Blog
#4 @ The Art Of Manliness
#5 @ The Care & Feeding Of Man
#6 @ Building Camelot

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

There must have been something in the airwaves

There's a site called Grab.it TV that has collected the top 20 music videos from every week starting when MTV debuted all the way through Napster. If you go to the site you can check out what the most popular videos were for any week of significance to you in this time period and click on the links to watch these.

For example, my wife and I were married on October 10, 1986 (the week of October 4), and by checking out that week I re-discovered that the number one video just so happened to be "Happy to Be Stuck With You" by Huey Lewis & the News.

Not only that, but the weekly top 20 also included "Friends & Lovers" by Gloria Long & Carl Anderson, "When I Think of You" by Janet Jackson, "Two of Hearts" by Stacey Q, and "Love Zone" by Billy Ocean. There was also a song by my wife's favorite actor at the time, "Heartbeat" from Don Johnson.

Also on the charts was "Heaven in Your Eyes" by the appropriately named Loverboy, "Take My Breath Away" by Berlin and "A Matter of Trust" by Billy Joel.

That was certainly an auspicious beginning for us, even if the list that week included "Throwing it all Away" by Genesis, "Walk This Way" by Run DMC/Aerosmith and "Didn't Mean to Turn You On" by Robert Palmer!

Monday, June 2, 2008

...Annnnd, we're back

What was shaping up as a pretty strong weekend of blog traffic here, thanks to Manival #5, disappeared, literally, in a puff of smoke. My web host service suffered a fire in their facility, damaging its infrastructure but not the servers. This took all the served blogs off-line for (at least in my case) about 27 hours. I have not heard if there were any injuries or further details on the amount of damage to the facility (and I'm trying to find out), but I commend the team for devoting their weekend to getting the business back up and running.