“Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities.”

- C.S. Lewis

I had a coach and gym teacher back in junior high school that used to call us guys a bunch of "Yo-yos". We knew that wasn't a good thing, but it also seemed like kind of a silly insult. Now that I'm about the age he was, and have deliberately subjected myself to the company of 13-to-15 year old boys, I know exactly what he meant by the term.

These kids can't sit still, and bounce around mentally just as much and as fast as they do physically. You can get their attention, but it's like having it on a string; it constantly goes off in different directions and has to be pulled back. Similarly my own experiences with them can are up and down. I've gotten involved because I want the lads to be of future benefit to society, but there are times when I think society might be best served by me drowning them in the river. Then there are times...

Last night we got together to watch Glory, the movie about the black regiment, the 54th Massachusetts, during the Civil War. The movie quickly got their attention (exploding heads in the opening scene will do that) and it appeared they were soon caught up in the story, even taking the unusual steps of raising their hands to ask questions about what was going on at different times in the movie. I'd stop the movie and answer the questions, giving them additional history about the Civil War and the politics of that time and using the opportunity to point out contrasts between different characters and how the actions of various men reflected their thoughts, assumptions and expectations (good and bad) of their fellow soldiers.

The boys became so engrossed in the story that they started offering exclamations and commentary when certain things happened on the screen, showing their own frustration with what the men in the movie were experiencing. When the 54th arrived in the South and was put to work felling and hauling timber one of our young men made the observation that, "They're still just like slaves!" At the end of the movie when the written epilogue revealed that the fort the men had sacrificed themselves to storm was never taken, another young man exclaimed, "What a waste!"

This was an excellent opening into discussing the movie, because I could ask him why he thought it was a waste. His response was because they had been killed with nothing to show for it; I asked the rest of the group if that was true, which led to some good responses as they started to grasp the significance of the "blood sacrifice" the regiment had made toward earning the respect of the nation for themselves and for their people. We also spent a long time talking about the dynamics of the flogging that one character received in the movie and whether or not it was "just", what it "cost" different people in the movie and whether it served a greater good. It was a very interesting discussion with some saying it was a racist act, while others saw the need for discipline to be enforced for the benefit of the regiment.

The boys were energized by the movie, and I was energized by their interest and the quality of their questions and answers and by the way they listened to the observations from the dads in the group. Before the movie started I had told them to watch for how different people had different expectations about the soldiers (even among the soldiers themselves) and how these expectations were reflected in different actions...and led to different results. A key thing I wanted them to understand is that "hard" doesn't necessarily mean "bad" and that "no pain, no gain" doesn't just apply to one person at a time. (Click on the link earlier in this post to see the original study guide and questions I use with this movie if you want to know more).

It was a good for me to review the lesson on expectations as well. Both the men in the movie and the boys in the class have to deal with the expectations — positive and negative — of others. Whether the boys made the connection or not, they, too, are judged by others simply because of their age and the "expectation" of their behavior. Sometimes they are dismissed as uncontrollable and barely human; other times they are held to an idealized and unrealistic standard; often the person holding both of those attitudes is myself.

What the men of the 54th needed, and what these boys who will be men are needing, is to be seen for the value that they have and for what they will be. Training can be hard and unpleasant for all concerned, but training exercises are a piece of cake compared to the real-life lessons that await. We do them no favors by thinking of them as just so much fodder to be thrown away, or by cutting them slack now out of mis-placed pity for how tough things are going to be for them later. Thinking back to my own days as a "yo-yo", I can see the difference others have made in my life.

I'm trying to get up to speed again on this weekly film series after my trip. I had ordered a couple of movies from Netflix based on recommendations from some of you and I watched these but they weren't right for the series. They were a couple of WWII movies, The Longest Day and A Bridge Too Far.

This series is about finding examples of strong character and to demonstrate character. War movies, with their crucibles of courage, sacrifice and heroism, can be a rich source of material (as well as providing examples of less than admirable behavior as well). These two movies are acknowledged as classics but they left me flat. It took me a little while to put my finger on it, but watching them close together helped. Both take the "grand spectacle" approach to filming a war movie with casts of thousands and dozens of big stars. Additionally, both take an almost reverent view of these historical moments. This is justified, but in these movies "reverent" means "slow." Both drag on ponderously (especially the aptly named Longest Day) while the big name stars make their brief cameo appearances. There's very little chance to examine a particular character, or small group of characters, or identify with them.

In contrast, a war movie such as Saving Private Ryan or Glory brings you up close to the men. For my purposes, this is essential because you have to see and relate to them being tested, not only by outside forces but from within. War movie or otherwise, this will be a key factor I'll look for when considering including a film that's new to me.

You might recall that we currently have a "second front" (to stretch the war analogy) going on with this series. A couple of months ago I started going through these movies again with a new group of boys, this time accompanied by their fathers. Initially the boys were kind of silly when it came to the discussion part after the first movie (High Noon) , but they started to get into the rhythm and purpose of it as we went through Zulu and The Tin Star.

In fact, we watched the latter right before I left on our trip and we had a very good discussion on motives, behavior, the nature of a bully, and how to use your brain before you use a gun. One of the questions I always ask with this movie is, "Who do you think the best man in the movie was?" We went around the room with boys and their dads saying either "Ben" or "Morg"; to my delight, however, one of the dads said, "Dr. Joe." This was what I was looking for because the elderly doctor displays a lot of good qualities that can easily be overlooked in a movie like this because he's "old" or doesn't carry a gun. It was a good class.

After the trip hiatus though we had a "technical difficulty" and the boys also seemed to revert a bit to the silliness of our first get-together. The technical difficulty was in getting a copy of the movie I wanted to watch, the Gary Cooper classic, "Sergeant York." This film is not available on DVD yet, and the Hollywood and Blockbuster stores near me (where I had originally rented this a few years ago) no longer carried it in their stock. I may have to buy a VHS copy from Amazon, but on short notice I pulled my copy of John Wayne's The Quiet Man from my shelf and went with that. It's a good story with a great fight scene at the end, but it's also "mushy" and mainly a love story (including Director John Ford's love of Ireland) so I may have lost the lads a bit. It was harder to keep them on focus during the discussion, but they were all interested in hearing what the next movie will be. I'll either get a copy of Sergeant York or go with Glory.

There might also be a chance to move this class in a third direction. Our church has been approached about hosting a Boy Scout "lock-in" this summer, and it's been suggested that I put on one or two of these movies during that. We'll see how it goes. At any rate, next week I'll be back in this space either with a new film in the series or a report from the next group gathering.